Lookin' for love (or a pony)? Kiss me!

News Flash – Roger and I are engaged!

I’ll be the first to admit, I was never the girl who fantasized about marriage, a wedding, or the picket fenced yard filled with children. Once, my mother caught me kissing a frog. She asked if I was hoping for my Prince Charming. I astoutely responded, “No Mom. I want his horse.”

So, it seems I met my prince nearly two year ago – not by kissing a frog, but by picking up grain at my sponsor’s grain store in Bow, NH. One incredibly honest and candid email later, and I had a date – the first date in nearly three years. It turns out Roger and I had both been single for a while. I was happy training and competing the horses, finding the balance between my work in the office and my passion in the saddle, and building my life around my aspirations. After more then a year of being single, I accepted that I may be single for the rest of my life. Surrounded by wonderful friends, a loving family, and my menagerie of animals, I embraced this fate with contentment.

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Roger popped the question just days before we would leave for Southern Pines, North Carolina. I had been wondering if he was going to propose, or if I would return from the land of sunshine and happiness as a single gal. I had just finished my evening Facebook ritual and was about to settle into bed. Then Roger walked in, tossed Frankie on the bed (the usual routine) and sternly uttered the dreadful words that anyone in any relationships loathes: “We need to talk.” I thought, “Oh crap. Here is comes. He’s had enough of the horses. He does not want a yuppy farm. I knew this was all too good to be true – it was just a matter of time.” He came around the bed, and sat down facing me. Before he got down on one knee, there were several “I love yous”, mentions of happiness since we met, and warm sentiments. He lowered to one knee, and asked me to be his wife – to marry him. I said yes. It must have been apparent that I was looking for the ring, and Roger said “Look at Frankie.” Tied around his neck on a piece of braiding yarn (how appropriate) was the ring box. I took it from his neck, gave it to Roger, and he placed it on my finger.

Our lovely antique ring.

Just when I thought it could not get any better, Roger delivered a home run: “I can’t wait to build out lives together. And, our lives with the horses.” How did I get so lucky?

So the rest is history – or will be history as our life together unfolds.

Katie Murphy

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  1. KC says:

    Holy BLING Roger! Nice job!! Katie, you’ll need sunglasses – the glint and glimmer from your left hand in the Southern Pines sun will be fierce!

    That’s a great engagement story! Enjoy it. And if you need a hand with nuptial planning, let me know – happy to help if I can!


  2. Heather says:

    Love it! Great Story Katie. Todd proposed to me after a trail ride. He went onto one knee in the barn aisle and had very similar words about starting our life together with the horses. To women like us this is what we have to hear. It certainly sets the ground for an amazing marriage. Now you must figure out how to incorporate ponies into the wedding if you can. I rode Braveheart side saddle to Todd on our wedding day. It was all I ever dreamed of.

    I am so happy for you both!

  3. Abbie says:

    I really like your blog. I enjoy the stories of all the adventures you have had bringing the boys along. I have not met you, but I have had the pleasure of meeting Fitty while Rajal had him at Cutter. Congratulations on the engagement and thank you for sharing the story with us! Have fun in Southern Pines!

  4. Leah says:

    Just remember, after you guys had been out once or twice, I met him. I called you and told you that you two would get married! Was I right or what! Yay!!!!!!

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  6. Vicki Roussel says:

    Holy crap, Katie! Are you going to be able to fit that ring under your riding glove?

    It is gorgeous! Congrats to you both. Roger is a great man and you are both very lucky.


  7. Katie Murphy says:

    Thank you, everyone! We are very excited and eager to build our lives together. I figure the ring is substantial enough that it should hold up to barn work and competitions!

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